Regular Meets With The Same People Or Find New Ones?

A lot of people find themselves wondering if they should continue with regular meets with the same people of if they should find new ones. There are a lot of different ways that you can look at this. It all comes down to who you like and what it is that you are looking for.

Regular Meets

Regular meets can be really nice if you and the ones that you are meeting happen to click. If the chemistry is nice and you have a good time, then there is no reason why you should consider trying to go for other people. If you look forward to the meets because of this person or if you want to schedule more meets so that you can see them more, then this is definitely something that you should consider as a regular thing.

New Ones

You may like the person that you are currently meeting with but you may find yourself wondering what else is out there. A lot of different people will end up wanting to meet up with several different people so that they won’t be missing out on anybody. Whether you are more interested in keeping the new feeling going or if you just want to see what all if out there, meeting new people regularly can be a lot of fun and very rewarding.

Judgment Call

It all comes down to what makes you more comfortable. If you are with a regular person but find yourself wondering what else is out there, it may be time to move on.

Posted in Finding Swingers at March 10th, 2011. No Comments.

How Best To See If You Are Compatible With Matches

Finding potential matches is difficult enough on it’s own. But even after you agree to meet up with someone, the compatibility factor can become an issue. It would be great if you could get some of that out of the way before the first meeting. Fortunately, you can weed through people successfully before you waste time on meetings that won’t go anywhere.

Find Interests

Most people will list a few of their interests in their online profiles. This isn’t meant to be an all inclusive list, and will just highlight some of the important interests they have. If you share any of these, it can be a good building point. Many websites will allow you to narrow your searches by keyword, or by tagged interest. This could be a good way to find those who will have something in common with you.

Get The Basics Out Of The Way

When it comes to finding new relationships, many people have a list of ‘deal-breakers’. For some this could be drinking, smoking, or drug habits. For others it may be future wants, marriage status, or religion. Come up with your own list of things that you could never overcome, and get this out of the way early. If you run across a profile but they have something listed that is on the deal-breaker list, then you know you won’t be compatible and don’t have to waste time.  If none of these are listed in the profile, you can bring them up in messaging later. Avoid them in the initial message, but bring them up after a few messages have been exchanged.

Posted in Finding Swingers, Swingers in the US at February 26th, 2011. No Comments.

Can You Meet Swingers That Share The Same Fetishes?

As a swinger, you may find yourself wondering if you can meet swingers that share the same fetishes as you. This is something that can really end up being difficult to do depending on what your fetishes happen to be. A lot of the time, you will find that if you simply ask that it may be pretty easy to find people that are in to the same things as you fetish wise.


If you go online and put yourself on a swinger’s dating site in the Swingers Ads you will be able to let people know right off the bat what your fetishes are. This will help you to be able to find people that have an interest in what you like. When they know right off the bat what interests you sexually you will both have a much easier time in the bedroom.


Whenever you are at a swinger’s meeting, then it may be a good idea to just casually bring up the fetishes that you have. Try not to do this in the heat of the moment as it may turn some people off or make them uncomfortable if it is not what they are into. They may also think that this is something that you are springing on them. A casual environment is best.


A lot of swinger’s clubs will have specific nights for different fetishes. Make sure that you get yourself in with a swinger’s club and that you pay attention to what they have going on different nights of the week.

Posted in Finding Swingers at January 27th, 2011. No Comments.